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You guys! I can’t believe a month has gone by already. We are soaking up the last of our summer together, and I hope you are, too.
This month, our affirmation is: My words matter. I listen before I speak. I communicate the things on my heart. I am willing to apologize. I am kind.
Isn’t it curious that we’re addressing how much your words matter, and yet the first thing I added to the list is “I listen…”? What is that all about?
One of my favorite mentors, Joshua Straub, puts it like this: “In order to be understood, you must first understand.” When we say, “I am kind”, similar principles apply. We want you to be kind to yourself and to others.
The question is, how do you strike that balance between communicating the things on your heart, and allowing others to do the same? Why does it matter to be, and offer, a safe space? Why do good and be kind?
We hope to provide some answers in the upcoming episodes, but, for now, let’s start with these three benefits:
First, connection. I will be the first to admit that I love my alone time. But over the last little while, as we’ve dealt with a global pandemic and purposeful social distancing, I’ve learned just how much connection matters to me. Treasured relationships make difficult circumstances endurable and life worth living.
In fact, did you know that positive social interaction has been shown to lower stress, depression, anxiety, and even impact your immune system? While negative social interaction or lack thereof often contributes to these mental, emotional, and physiological conditions in reverse? Wouldn’t it behoove you then to enhance the quality of your relationships and your ability to connect by learning how to use your words wisely?
Second, the law of attraction. I don’t believe in karma in the traditional sense, but I’m sure most of us remember the “golden rule” being repeated by some teacher or other in our younger years – do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Or, how about this? – You attract more flies with honey. When you treat someone with compassion, you open doors for others to do the same.
Finally, building social capital, or in other words – trust. As much as we hope for every interaction to be a positive one, there are times when you will have to speak up – when you will feel compelled to go against the grain, when you need to address a conflict, or when a hurt feeling comes out. When that happens, will those around you trust your words enough to listen? To see your character and look for the heart behind your words? Will they value your words, because they know you don’t take them lightly?
Now, recognizing these benefits doesn’t automatically make it easier to know what to say or when to say it, but all it takes is the willingness to consistently try.
If that’s you, we can’t wait for you to join us on the ride. Spread love!
❤ Jenny and Joe