100 Days of Journal Prompts: Day 14

Each day, laptop and children permitting, I’ll share a prompt that’s been on my mind, and a few of my thoughts.

You are welcome to share your own perspective in the comments, or just journal it out!

What are the benefits of consistency? Am I consistent? Why or why not?

Speaking of failure, would you consider yourself consistent?

I must admit, I do a pretty good job of getting back up after falling flat on my face.

While my follow-through sometimes leaves something to be desired, change happens in small increments, so, that’s okay – as long as I keep trying.

I didn’t wake up one day and decide to start a podcast. I was an avid listener for over a year, before I thought, “Maybe this is something I would enjoy.”

I thought it over and over again, and that “maybe” turned into “how can I make this happen?”.

– Which turned into reading and fleshing out all of the baby steps.

– Which turned into buying the gear and investing in a class.

– Which turned into setting up all kinds of software logins, working with graphics and narrowing down a target audience, then writing, recording, and launching our first episode.

Most big changes in my life have come about that way.

I met Joe in college because I thought maybe I shouldn’t go home for the summer. I desperately wanted to, but I also wanted to know what it was like to be unfamiliar with something – roommates, routines, neighbors…

When we don’t have the fear of failure constantly hanging over our heads, it’s easier to say, “Let’s try something new.”

“Let’s try something I might be bad at!”

Let’s try again.

That’s what consistency is all about!

As an added benefit, when something isn’t taking you in the direction you want to go, it becomes that much more clear.

Consistency, coupled with purpose, always builds resilience.

Who ever saw that coming?

❀ Jenny

14 thoughts on “100 Days of Journal Prompts: Day 14

  1. I read the question and immediately thought about it from the other perspective, why it is important to me for others and for external forces to be consistent. And my answer to that reads like something I learned in ed-psych class in 1998: because consistency means that the consequences of my actions, both positive and negative, are consistent and predictable, and then I feel more of a sense of being in control of my own life. Inconsistency leads to learned helplessness, the feeling that no matter what I do, I can’t change the outcomes in my life. And inconsistency in teachers and school administrators giving consequences and grades leads many students to develop a sense that they will never be good at school.

    That isn’t what happened with me. But I have found two other areas in my life where inconsistency has led to learned helplessness and a feeling of hopelessness and discouragement. One is dating and romantic relationships. Nothing that has happened to me in that area has ever made sense. Girls acted interested in me when they weren’t. I never got the chance to learn from rejection because I never knew why I was rejected. And then the Josh Harris anti-dating purity movement came along in the late 90s, and there were all these new rules to follow. And then some of the people who preached that the loudest didn’t follow the rules. And at one church I went to in the early 2000s, I was told by the pastor that I wasn’t allowed to talk to women at church because my awkward mannerisms scared them off, and at the same time my accountability group leader was banging some chick he wasn’t married to or even in a relationship with, and a new girl showed up at church and immediately became romantically involved with a guy there, and a few weeks later that had ended and the first guy and this new girl were shamelessly flirting after church despite the questionable circumstances that he was 28 and she was 19… after that week, I never went back to that church. Then I started hanging out with people who weren’t Christians and found out that they had all these rules too, about how many days you’re supposed to wait before texting someone and exactly what words you’re supposed to use to communicate that you’re interested in someone, even though the words that mean you are and the words that mean you aren’t sounded like synonyms to me. None of that makes any sense.

    The other area where I feel learned helplessness is much more recent: COVID restrictions. For the last nine months, I’ve been following all the rules, and then all of a sudden the rules change in order to keep us locked down and miserable for longer. (I just deleted something else I had to say related to this; it was a sensitive enough topic that I probably shouldn’t post it here.)

    As for being consistent myself, all of this is a reminder to do my part to be consistent, so that others whose lives depend on my decisions do not experience that kind of learned helplessness.

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    1. Your thoughts make me think of hypocrisy. It’s so hard to come across that in our lives and relationships. I’m sorry you had to have those difficult experiences. Honesty and integrity and being consistent in those things can make all the difference. But it’s also hard to always live the way we know we ought (fellow flawed human here πŸ™‹πŸ½β€β™€οΈ). Great advice as something we can each be working on.

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  2. I have to admit I have sometimes almost need a shove to “step out of the boat” and into new experiences. But, I like to think I am consistent in moving forward once I take that first step.

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