#38: Owning Unexpected Paths & How to Love the Single Life

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Show Notes:

Weekly Affirmation: I am all in. I am whole. I get back up.

You guys!

Another episode I literally couldn’t wait to air. In fact, I’m dropping this early so that you can have it for Valentine’s Day – slash #singleawarenessday .

Whether you’re in a relationship or not, our guest today shares some amazing insights for when the path we hope for takes a devastating detour, and how to show up anyway.

Our guest: Allie Barnes is an author, Latter-day Saint, and people person. She is a masters student studying leadership, and previously graduated with a bachelor’s degree in Family Studies. Her book, “Not According to Plan”, is all about relationships and faith, and I can’t wait for you guys to hear her story!

10 Ways to Own the Unexpected & Love the Life You Have:

  1. Our rock bottom moments prepare and make us stronger for difficult times ahead. Each time, we learn more and we grow more.
  2. It’s so important to maintain our own lives and identities. Take time for you in whatever relationship you are in.
  3. Intentionally invest in your friendships.
  4. Sometimes God leads us in a certain direction, and it’s only for a season. It doesn’t mean it was the wrong place; it means it was only for the time being.
  5. Pay attention to the patterns in your life.
  6. Pursue your passion, take risks, and claim what you want for your life. Buy a Kitchen Aid. Live on your own. You don’t have to wait for it!
  7. Be all in with who you are. You can be loved even in a broken state.
  8. You can be angry with God. He is strong enough to take that. Learn to wrestle with Him and let Him know how you truly feel.
  9. It’s okay to feel sad, and angry, but don’t stay there. Learn how you get back up, make it personal to you.
  10. Find joy in your every day, and remember that it gets easier.


Journal Prompt: Ask yourself, what helps me, personally, to get back up? After a bad day? After a bad year? One of the biggest things that has helped me over the past year is knowing how to turn those moments around. Some things I do are…

  • When I’m feeling unproductive, I get in my workout clothes, get outside, and read with my kiddos.
  • When I’m feeling sad or stressed, I check one thing off of the to-do list to do my future self a favor, and then pop popcorn, watch a family movie, and snuggle with my kids!
  • When I need alone time, I take it – even if it’s just locking myself in the bathroom.
  • When I need connection, I’m more intentional about being present in the moment, or I Marco Polo my friends.
  • When I’m angry, I vent to someone I trust.
  • When I make a mistake, I tell myself “start fresh now”, and I keep trying.

Those are just a few ideas, but really think about what works for you.

Homework! Next time you’re feeling down and you need a boost. Remember, it’s okay to feel that. But also, practice what you wrote down, and get back up.

Spread love!

❤ Jenny and Joe


4 thoughts on “#38: Owning Unexpected Paths & How to Love the Single Life

  1. Absolutely beautiful of a concept. Life seldom goes per the plan. It’s best to get grooving with the unexpected because more often than not those are just as great!
    I love how you get in your workout clothes and read outside to the kids..wonderful idea.

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